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Essay about genders differences in loving

 

Love is a spiritual issue that is indispensable in life. The concept of love in each country or between genders is different. Women and men naturally have several dissimilarities in their brain and their soul, their emotions are also unalike. There are three major differences between men and women in loving.

Firstly, the ways that men and women express their love are not the same. Unlike men, women are generally more emotional, romantic and expressive. As the weaker gender, they are more sensitive and they also use more facial expression and body languages to demonstrate their emotions. Men, on the other hand, often have difficulty in expressing their feelings for one another. They are men and they always want to prove their strength. Therefore, they tend to hide them inside and they will often share only with those who are close to them. Nevertheless, men seem to have a better control over their emotion than women. Women express their emotions apparently, we can clearly see the expression of their emotions through their face .More to the point, men and women have different ways of expressing love when they are feeling angry. Women are likely to express their anger through words and then they become sad, hurt or depressed whereas men can repress their anger, as a result, they are more likely to express through actions and they tend to become resentful. Furthermore, women and men are different in facing with tragedy. Women are able to be sympathetic while men keep their emotions under control and they tend to be unconcerned and unresponsive. According to Elizabeth Schoenfeld, a researcher at the university of Texas in Austin, found that men show love by initiating sex or sharing activities together while women express love by being less forceful and more obliging. For instance, the finding suggest that a wife may be more accommodating to her husband's moods and needs in an attempt to kick-start the marriage rather than expressing interest or engaging in more joint activities. In this same study, researcher shown that each of the 168 couples living in rural central Pennsylvania were in their first marriage about their partner within two months of when each couples was married and the annually over the cause of 13-years study.

Secondly, another difference is in how they react to a breakup. Men and women differ in how upset they become when their relationship ends. Both men and women experience the same relief and depression after a breakup. However, there are still many contrasts between them. Normally, almost people think that women experience more distress than men. But research does not seem agree this. "Choo and colleagues (1996) found that women experienced more relief than men did". "Choo and colleagues (1996) argued that women express their emotions and felling more rapidly with friends thus it is easy to cope with their felling .Men, on the other hand, usually keep feelings to themselves". Nonetheless, actually, women seem to be emotional reactions to a breakup in their daily life than men. When the relationship ends, it can have more negative impacts on women than men. They tend to be a greater risk for depression, loneliness, anxiety and physical injury. When surveying on the way men and women cope with breakup, the research has shown that both men and women tend to turn to alcohol or drugs after breakup. Actually, men tend to indulge in drinking and smoking compared to women. Research also indicated that men will rely more heavily on emotional distraction whereas women are more likely to ruminate. Moreover, they blame themselves for the breakup. Women, however, are more likely to blame their partner.

Finally, women and men have different views on love. In modern society, men always take the initiative in love, they have various ways to conquer women. Additionally, a large number of men want women to confront with feelings from them, men might like the woman who takes the initiative to accost them. Naturally, the feeling in men's heart does not match with their action outside. Women, just like men, also have different attitudes towards love. Once falling in love, many women often lose their assertiveness, they can not restrain themselves and they would more likely to sacrifice and accept to deep psychological wounds that men cause .They are strong women, they are able to do all things on their own and overcome all difficulties. However, when falling in love, their soul will be fragile and in front of love a strong woman will become sort-hearted. More specifically, women also are not willing to give up their love before men. In case men hurt them and give up them, they really believe that love does not exist anymore.

In short, although the concept of love between men and women has many similarities, the differences in love are concerned more and this issue was debated for many researchers. Throughout three aspects of love described above, our standing of love is expanded.  In particular, we are able to draw lessons for ourselves as the result we can build great relationships in love. It is important that we learn about these differences in order to those who are in love and will love can have the new orientation to build a more durable love.